Articles
Here are the recent articles I wrote for BRAINZ.
01
Time For A Pronoun Paradigm Shift?
During a recent large online meeting, I felt different. Like I didn’t get the memo saying: “Post pronouns beside your name.” If all those talented Harvard alumni women posted their pronouns, I should too, right? Me2.
02
Top Ways Leaders Manage Conflict And Reduce the Cortisol-Related Stress Response
Nested within a wide circle of family, colleagues, and community systems, we humans find health, happiness, and meaningful purpose. And sometimes, friction.
03
It's All In Your Head – Cultivating Conscious Conversations
When you inaccurately imagine something, “It’s all in your head.” It’s also what the car mechanic thinks when you complain about that clicking sound that mysteriously disappears during the inspection.
04
What’s Worse? Scary Movie 3 Or “We Have To Talk”?
Does “We Have to Talk” trigger an inner primal scream? Perhaps you’ve heard these ominous 4-words from...
05
Do You Have A Clearing Disorder?
Have you ever complained about busy work distracting you from strategic, high-impact projects and planning? You’re not alone!
06
Silence Your Perfectionista
Did you get all that? If English is your native language, most likely you understood it, errors and all. Spelling mistakes did not materially impact the outcome.
After spiraling down 12 flights of stairs with the swarm of colleagues for the second fire drill in a week, and waiting in our allocated space, shivering on a fridjid February day in Boston, I did what everyone does 150 times a day.
Checked my phone.
That's when I saw a LinkedIn message from a person I worked with a decade ago.
Gary in Finance. What would Gary be pinging me about?
“Of all the people I’ve worked with, you were one of the very few who made a lasting impact on me.”
Wait, what?
Was this message really from Gary (the Iceman) who I fired as my client?
Gary who barely looked up to acknowledge I entered his office, continuing emails.
“This isn’t going to work. I’m not wasting the company’s money or my time” I remember saying as I stood up to exit his office.
Surprisingly, that got his attention and Gary sprung up cajoling me to give him another chance.
I wasn't playing hard to get. He had reached out to me to help with his (lack of) EQ.
By standing up to him in frustration, I apparently disrupted his autopilot (anti)social behavior.
It didn't matter that he was a VP and I was a Director. What mattered to me was adding value.
Over the years, my definition of "adding value" has evolved.
Frequently I lost touch with it.
Yet knowing and doing my unique VAP - Value Adding Process - brings me clarity on my contribution to my corner of the world.
How clear are you on your contribution to the world?
Has it morphed while you were busy doing something else called life and work?
At this stage in your life, are you adding the value in the world you had hoped for?
Does this mean you should say "I quit" ?
Not at all!
But what if you could have that option (and others) in case you burn out, want a break or a life more aligned with your essence?
If you're curious, contact me to see if my upcoming mastermind of midlife change makers might be a fit.
We'll be working towards transforming our success to true significance in our corner of the world.
Learning and Un-Learning2LEAD, to do more and be more in my corner of the world.